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The second post of the day.
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ANYWAYYYYYYY
Today lesson are...
THE SELF
phewww ~~旦_(･o･;)
ANYWAYYYYYYY
Today lesson are...
THE SELF
What is "self"?
how do we define ourself?
who are we?
The self are the way in which communication and interpretation of messages takes place within the individual.
simply to say,
how much we know ourself and how people see us.
as we grow mentally, we expand ourself via experience and knowledge.
and the principle of "Self" is opened to us
the principle of "self" are:
a. Self-concept
b. Self-awareness
c. Self-esteem
d. Self-disclosure
Self-concept
Definition: How you thinking and feel about yourself.
knowing your strength, weakness, feeling and emotion, you thought, etc.
These factor are what might or will affect our conception of ourself:
a. Social Comparison
b. Other’s Images of you
c. Self interpretations & evaluations
d. Cultural teaching
Social Comparison
> as we grow, we tend to compare and readjust ourself into society so that we fit in.
> Examples, if society think that korea's fashion is awesome, we might follow korea's fashion trend cause everyone doing it!
> as we grow, we tend to compare and readjust ourself into society so that we fit in.
> Examples, if society think that korea's fashion is awesome, we might follow korea's fashion trend cause everyone doing it!
Other’s Images of you
> Involuntary or voluntary compare ourself with others
> Examples, after receiving your examination result, we'll tend to ask our friend's result to compare.
> Examples, after receiving your examination result, we'll tend to ask our friend's result to compare.
Self interpretations & evaluations
> Our ethical, morality,beliefs and comprehension and conformity of things around you
> Examples, Some might think that gay and lesbian are wrong, while some might think that is natural or is an ok ideal.
Cultural teaching
> Your cultural belief, righteous, values and morality.
> Examples, My religion written that, be kind to other and other will be kind to you.
> Examples, My religion written that, be kind to other and other will be kind to you.
Self-awareness
Definition: The process of discovering your personal development and understanding, and how other aware of your "Self"
Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham has created the theory on Self awareness called The Johari Window
What is Johari Window?
it's the four window that explain the different part of ourselves between us and others.
Open arena (Open self)
Known to self and others
Example, you like the color Blue because you wear Blue everyday
and you tell others you like red.
Façade (Hidden self)
Known to self but unknown to others
Example, you are afraid of mice but you never show it because it makes you lose your ‘coolness’ – for guys.
it's the four window that explain the different part of ourselves between us and others.
Open arena (Open self)
Known to self and others
Example, you like the color Blue because you wear Blue everyday
and you tell others you like red.
Façade (Hidden self)
Known to self but unknown to others
Example, you are afraid of mice but you never show it because it makes you lose your ‘coolness’ – for guys.
Blind Spot (Blind Self)
Unknown to you but known to others
Example,non-verbal messages, body languages.
Some may rub their nose or touch their face when they are nervous.
Unknown (Unknown Self)
Unknown to you and others.
Unknown to you but known to others
Example,non-verbal messages, body languages.
Some may rub their nose or touch their face when they are nervous.
Unknown (Unknown Self)
Unknown to you and others.
Example, natural ability or aptitude that a person doesn't realize they possess
To grow in self awareness here's some tips.
~Listen to others (they might give some opinion you might not know ! -> our blind spot<- )
~Increase your open self (open yourself more, opportunity come when you are more open)
~Seek information about yourself ( find yourself whether it's hobby, interests, dislike, likes, etc)
~Dialogue with yourself (talk to yourself, you might find your unknown self? :D )
Self-esteem
Definition: The level of confidence you have or known.
Having high esteem is good,
it gives us the boost we need,
BUUUUUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
too much, you might drown yourself.
Having high esteem is good,
it gives us the boost we need,
BUUUUUUUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
too much, you might drown yourself.
How to increase self esteem ?
I don't know :|
BUT THANK to Mr Anwari's notes
Here what he advised :DDD
+ Attack self-destructive belief
@ don't drown yourself in self pity or self destruction, there will always be the dark side of ourself, fight it, embrace it.
I don't know :|
BUT THANK to Mr Anwari's notes
Here what he advised :DDD
+ Attack self-destructive belief
@ don't drown yourself in self pity or self destruction, there will always be the dark side of ourself, fight it, embrace it.
+ Seek out Nourishing people
@ Sometime, we dwell in our dark little pool, thinking "i'm worthless" "i deserve to die", But with loves one, we can be reminded that there's good in this world and good about yourself. So don't give up on yourself :)
@ Sometime, we dwell in our dark little pool, thinking "i'm worthless" "i deserve to die", But with loves one, we can be reminded that there's good in this world and good about yourself. So don't give up on yourself :)
+ Work on project that will result in success
@ simple, yet effective, as it will boost our self esteem :D
@ simple, yet effective, as it will boost our self esteem :D
+ Remind yourself of your success
@ we tend to forgot our success, cause we always improving and evolving that we tend to forget how we reached the mountain top.
@ we tend to forgot our success, cause we always improving and evolving that we tend to forget how we reached the mountain top.
+ Secure affirmation
@ Rest assuring ourself of our ability and skill.
Self-disclosure
Definition: An act of telling others about things that they wouldn't know about you – telling your hidden self.
By doing so, not only you gain a closer bond between another,
but also it keep tru to yourself.
There're pro and con on self disclosure.
but also it keep tru to yourself.
There're pro and con on self disclosure.
The Pro of it are:
a. Gain confidence
b. Be more truthful about yourself
c. Make or strengthen friendships and relationships
The Cons
a. Lost of friends and trust
b. Additional pressure and burden
c. Living with regret
How do you define yourself?
are you happy with yourself?
if yes, keep at it
if no, keep fighting for happiness :)
Don't give up.
