Chapter Ten ♫ "Small group communication" - 25 March 2015

Communication is the power,
just have to depend on how you use it.

Hi guys,
Well..

after 10+ post,

we finally reach the ending of the basis of Human Communication
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so today's post will be the last.

It's been a good journey,

trying to find time to post weekly,

trying to make my blog as humorous and educational as possible (epic fail in my part ._____." )

Well..

I hope you enjoyed this last post :)

Today class taught about

"Small group communication"

Previously, in my blog post..
"Chapter One ♫ "Foundation Of Human Comm." - 14 Jan 2015"


the definition of Small Group Communication is
"communicate with a group of people between (5++)"


The Subtopic of Small Group Communication are:

♫Small groups & teams

♫Small group stages

♫Small group format

♫Power in the small group

♫Types of small group

♫Problem solving group 

♫Small groups & teams♫

Forming groups and click is a natural part of life

but small groups are formed out of a common interest:

✦Purpose

similar purpose and reason.

Eg : assignment, project etc

✦Interdependence

individual depending on one another for common objective or to complement each other

eg ; different talent and skills

✦Organization of rules

individual in small groups has  certain schemata/rule to adhere to.

eg; formal meeting will done formally, informal social gathering will have less formal feel.

✦Self-perception as a group

individual wanting to feel belonged to a larger group of common shared values, beliefs, likings and mentality

Small groups are also characterized as a TEAM. 

An effective TEAM normally contain these qualities:-

✦Specific purpose

task completion, goal completion, problem solving etc

✦Clearly defined roles

there must be a leader, there must be supporters and everybody must be a team player

✦Goal directed : commitment to achieve the common goal and objective

✦Content focused : must be able to generate content- not distracted by other things. 

For example, winning the game, creating the book

Teams can be both in face-to-face or in the virtual world via video/audio interaction (conference calls or video conference calls)

♫Small group stages♫ 

Created by Sir Anwari ᕙ(▀̿̿Ĺ̯̿̿▀̿ ̿) ᕗ

♫Small group formats♫

Small group format is how naturally,

a group would form into a position where everyone are able to commute each other with ease.

Examples of small group format:

1. The round table
2. The panel
3. The Symposium
4. The symposium-forum

The round table

>Arrange themselves in circular or semicircular

>Share the information- no pattern of who speak when

>Group interaction : informal

>Leader – try to keep members on track

>Eg ; group project, group assignment.

The panel

#Group members are experts

#Informal –  no pattern of who speaks when.

#There is an audience in front (Questions & answers session)

#The most popular small group formats.

#Eg ; talk shows

The Symposium

@Each member delivers a prepared presentation much like a public speech.

@speeches – different aspect of a single topic

@Symposium leader introduce the speakers, provides transitions from one speaker to another and summarize the topic.

@Seminars, public speaking, conferences.

The symposium-forum

+Two parts : 

+A symposium with prepared speeches

+Forum (questions and responses)

+The leader introduces the speaker and moderates the question and answer session.

+Eg; campaigns, manisfesto, forum.

♫Power in the small group♫

Normally, some individual present them self with a certain power that the other group normally naturally know.

There are many types of power within a small group,

here are some of the commons one:

Legitimate power : by rules – appointed group leader

Referent power : by agreement – when another person wishes to be like you or identified with you

Eg; because of your good characteristics ,attitude, etc )

Reward power : by positive reinforcement

E.g “I like your idea Jeff – now I will increase your salary”

Coercive power : by negative reinforcement, punishment.

Eg ; you make others in trouble, I will decrease your salary!

Expert power : by establishing yourself as the expert in the context. 

Eg; you are the only one who watched the movie for your assignment in your human communication group, therefore you have the right to establish authority. 

Information power : by establishing yourself as the person can communicate and inform the best.

Eg; public speaker

♫Types of small group♫

There are many types of small group,

If Joined together with the right people,

a small group are capable of doing anything.

The types of small groups that are commonly known are~~

• Idea-generation groups
• Personal-growth groups
• Information- sharing groups
• Problem-solving groups

Idea-generation groups

Most groups would meet for the first time to discuss over the potential issues and solutions

brainstorming simply to say.

in brainstorming, rules must be followed :

>Don’t criticize one another

>Strive for quantity

>Combine and extend ideas

>Develop the wildest ideas possible

Personal-growth groups

Sometimes referred to as support group

Aim to help members cope with particular difficulties such as drug addict, not being assertive enough, having an alcoholic parent etc.

The Encounter Group: “sensitivity group”

  - this group try to facilitate members

  - more on psychotherapy 

The assertiveness training group: 

-aims to increase the willingness of its members to stand up for their right 

and to act more  assertively in a wide variety of situations.

The Consciousness – raising group:

-aim to help people cope with the problems society confronts them with.

-eg ; women’s rights groups, anti abuse groups etc

Information Sharing Group

People form ideas & share information with one another

Categorize by:

Educational group

contributing to the academic circle

Example: educational conference, talks etc.

Focus group

affirming the existence of the information, 

or the probability of increasing the confirmation of certain issues.

Example: most researcher tend to do a focus group, to find out what or how the public would respond to it. 

For example, new change the flavor or the bottle of the product.

♫Problem-solving group♫

In this category, group come together to face or solve a certain issue or problem.

The stages of solving issues:

01 Define and analyze the problem

02 Establish criteria for evaluating solutions

03 Identify possible solutions

04 Evaluate solutions

05 Select solutions

06 Test solutions – if failed, try again. If okay, then proceed.

'Six Thinking Hats' is an important and powerful technique. It is used to look at decisions from a number of important perspectives and solving problem at ahnds

The meaning behind the hats:-

Blue Hat:

Stands for process control. 

T discuss how the meeting will be conducted and to develop the goals and objectives

White Hat:

You focus on the data available. 

Look at the information you have, 

and see what you can learn from it. 

This is where you analyze past trends, and try to extrapolate from historical data.

Red Hat:

Looking at problems using intuition, gut reaction, and emotion. 

Also try to think how other people will react emotionally. Try to understand the responses of people who do not fully know your reasoning.

Green Hat:

The Green Hat stands for creativity. 

This is where you can develop creative solutions to a problem. 

It is a freewheeling way of thinking.

Yellow Hat:

The yellow hat helps you to think positively. 

It is the optimistic viewpoint that helps you to see all the benefits of the decision and the value in it. 

Yellow Hat thinking helps you to keep going when everything looks gloomy and difficult.

Black Hat:

Looking at all the bad points of the decision. Look at it cautiously and defensively. 

This is important because it highlights the weak points in a plan. 

It allows you to eliminate them, alter them, or prepare contingency plans to counter them.

And that's the end of Chapter 10,

and probably the last post i'll post again.

Thank for being patience with my random dry humour and ranting ᕙ༼◕ ᴥ ◕༽ᕗ

i'll probably post ur the last chapter since i use this blog as my revision medium ◕ ᴥ ◕

well...

I hope aliens out there understand what i blog about human communication 

Thanks for reading.

THE END

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Chapter Nine ♫ "Friends, Lovers & Families" - 24 March 2015

My Childhood :)
and the reason why i'm mentally craze :D

Wuss Up Aliensssssssssssssssssssss~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
honestly, over 7 posts,
i'm still bad at introduction :|
hmm
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THAT'S RIGHT, EVEN I,
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today chapter are about Friends, Lovers & Families
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DA MAJOR TOPIC FOR DA CHAPTER R :

> Friendship (Ɔ˘⌣˘)(˘⌣˘)˘⌣˘ C)
> Romantic relationship ( ‘́3’̀)/(˘̩̩ε˘̩ƪ)
> Families (‘౪’(`౪´(^౪^(´･౪･`)´౪`)°౪°)-౪-)

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━━ FRIENDSHIP ━━

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Friendship Is an interpersonal relationship.

To maintain a good friendship,

all individual must be mutually productive

Normally characterized by mutual positive regard:

#Trust

#Emotional support

#Sharing interest

The Friendship Types:-

The Friendship of Reciprocity

# Loyalty, self-sacrifice, mutual affection, generosity.

# Share equally in giving receiving the benefits and rewards of the relationship.

# Eg : close friend

The Friendship of Receptivity

# One person is the primary giver, and one the primary receiver.

# Eg : teacher & students, doctor & patient

The Friendship of Association

# friendly relationship

# There is no great loyalty, no great trust, no great giving & receiving.

# Eg : classmates, neighbours, cowokers

The Purposes of Friendship 

Why do we seek out friendship and close relationships?

What's the point of having bond and friendship?
We are an interactive creature which need friends for various purposes such as:

✽Utility purposes

help you to achieve your specific goals and need.

eg : those who good in Math may teach you that subject.

✽Affirmation

help you to recognize your attributes

eg : those who would help you see more clearly your leadership abilities.

✽Ego support

someone who behave in supportive and encouraging.

eg : those who would help you view yourself as worthy.

✽Stimulation : introduces you to new ideas, help you to expand your world-view

✽Security  : someone who does nothing to hurt you or to emphasize or call attention to your weaknesses.

Stages of Friendship

Step01 - Initial contact & acquaintanceship

✽The first stage of friendship

✽Impressions are formed.

✽Important to stay open and welcoming of the presence of your new acquaintance.

Step02 - Casual friendship

✽The second stage of friendship.

✽Dyadic (of a relation) consciousness takes place

✽Doing things together

Step03 - Close and intimate friendship

✽The third stage of friendship

✽Most intimate forms of togetherness.

Influential of Friendship 

Friendship can be affected by other influence such as:

✪Culture (AGAIN?! (╯°Д°）╯︵/(.□ . ) )

✪Gender differences

✪technology

๏Cultural๏

Different cultures would bring about a different meaning to friendships and relationships.

Collective society : the more friends, the better

Individualist society: the more friends I have, the lesser chance of getting a promotion in workplace.

๏Gender๏

Male and female view friendships and relationships differently

Men are more keen to develop more acquaintances, but not true friends

Women are more able to keep and maintain close friends around them. 

But tends to get jealous more.

Self-disclosure : men would also self-disclose their secrets lesser than a women.  because of ego

๏Technology๏

The meaning of friendship has been diluted by the improvement and usage of technology in our lives.

In the past, it used to be meaningful to have 10 friends which you keep in touch with, 

but these days you can have 5000 friends in facebook 

and you don’t even keep in contact with 5 of them on a regular basis.

Sad for the newer generation :C

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━ ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP ━

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The Types of love ❤

Eros : erotic, sensual, desire, lust

Ludus : excitement, fun, entertainment

Storge : peaceful and slow

Pragma : practical and traditional

Mania : extremist of opposites

Agape : unconditional love

❥Eros ❣

❤ Category represents love that comes out physical attraction, beauty and appearance. 

❤ Often sex and lust becomes the result of this category

❥Ludus ❣

❤ Form of love represents the thrill of excitement and pleasure seeking

❤ Normally only seeking temporary measures and ways to fulfill their need to have fun.

❤ Usually ludic lovers are those who are individualists or self-centered and would only maintain the relationship with their partner until they become bored. 

❥Storge ❣

❤ This form of love represents the act of seeking for love but with the absence of passion and emotion in the process. 

❥Pragma ❣

❤ Lover are more concerned of the ability of the other partner and the benefits that they could gain from the relationship

❥Mania ❣

❤ Lover is a bit of a psycho- they love the thrill of having love and at the same is depressed or worried of having love.

❥Agape ❣

❤ This love is truly unconditional love

❤ Loving another with no favor expected in return. 

❤ Can be considered as the highest and most selfless form of love.

❣ Influential of Romantic Relationship ❣

❥ Cultural Influence

Love is interpreted and practiced differently from various culture around the globe. 

For instance

in America, lovers are more intimate and more active in showing their love(buying flowers etc) 

in Asian countries, love is considered a taboo topic until the individuals have reached a certain age and overall, love take a more passive position in Asian countries.

❥ Gender Influence

Both men and women love differently. 

Men for example, is more and eros and ludic lover

Women are more of the pragma lover.

❥  Technology Influence

Likewise with friendships, 

the meaning of love is also diluted by the growth of technology. 

Non verbal cues and verbal cues for instance, 

Becomes more diluted by the cold and digital texts and messages done 

through emails, text messages, whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc.

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━━ FAMILIES ━━

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Each family has their own uniqueness and characteristics, 

but they do normally follow a certain set of rules and criteria, such as :

●Defined roles (E.g Father as the head)

○Recognition of responsibilities (E.g Mother do house chores)

●Shared history & future (Childhood, difficulty of starting a family)

○Shared living space (Knowing the boundaries without needing to ask..at times)

The Types of family :

○Traditional couples

The conventional form of a family – shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.

○Independent couples

Individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family – unfortunately this is how the modern family is today.

○Separate couples

This family setting is not really a family but individuals in this family stay together for a common benefit (paying the rent, sharing living space, etc)

Communication between Families

Each family communicates with one another differently, 

but would also adhere to the same principles of communication :

●Equality: Individual in families would often seek an equal terms of  respect, love and understanding with one another

●Balanced split : families with a balanced split have a balanced amount of responsibilities

eg; fathers would get money from work, 

mother would prepare and take care of the family and house as in return (balanced)

●Unbalanced split : a mother having to work for money and taking care of the home but the father just stay at home unemployed and not even doing the housework.

●Monopoly : one person is the authority – a very traditional and conventional family setting

Influential of Families

♪Culture

Highly individualist cultures would not have a conductive setting for a healthy family. 

But would often be prepared to accept changes and self-disclosure

♪Technology

Technology brings the family closer or further apart?

Research showed that while the participants in the family are more active in conversation, 

with one another(via text message, email, facebook, etc) 

the quality and value of those conversations are diluted and almost meaningless and lack sincerity.

END OF CHAPTER 9~~~!!!!!
2 MORE CHAPTER TOGO Q7Q

SEE YOU GUYS LTR~~
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BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE :3
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Afterwords-----------------
ok, i honestly know how shitty my blog post recently
well, from the previous post (Chapter Seven&Eight ♫ "Interpersonal Communication" - 24 Feb 2015)
Subtopic Excuses.
here's my excuses :|

it been pretty busy with university life
since UCSI favourite trend is
every semester, there will be that one certain of time where suddenly,
Exam, Midterms, Quizzes and assignments are somehow come together (OAO!!)
and well, being in-charge of quite some stuff
will kill anyone :|
*drama queen activate*
but i believe that...

so... keep fighting (ง ಥДಥ)ง
cause i know sir also has a hard time at marking and check our blogs xD

Real boy cry, Real Man cry while facing whatever hit him

Chapter Seven&Eight ♫ "Interpersonal Communication" - 3 March 2015

it doesn't take much to speak,

silence is the one that take everything away 

Hey Aliens (ﾉ≧∀≦)ﾉ
it's after CNY holiday
And i'm feeling
sleepy and tired
mostly sleepy
cause i'm still in my holiday mood (─۝─)

BUT assignment is still piling up
and my procrastination ain't helping :|
so i'll force myself into writing this post :V

on this week classes,
we learnt "Interpersonal Relationship"



What is interpersonal Communication ?

from our previous chapterssss~~ (Chapter One ♫ "Foundation Of Human Comm." - 14 Jan 2015)

we learnt that "interpersonal communication"
is about how we commute with another individual (2 person communication)

"a communication between two or more people"

and the key subtopic of this chapters are:

1. The Conversation Process
2. Principles of Conversation
3. Everyday Conversation
4. Relationship Stages
5. Relationship Theories
6. The Dark Side of Interpersonal Relationships

The Conversation Process

The process of conversation started with
Step01 - Opening ; e.g "wuss up" "Hi"
Step02 - Feedforward ; can goes 2 way, (1) new channels of comm. (2)using future msgs
Step03 - Business ; what he or you gonna start talking about
Step04 - Feedback ; responses, E.g "thank bruh"
Step05 - Closing ; E.g "bye" "see you next time"

Principles of Conversation

The principle of Interpersonal Communication are

• Principles of Turn-Taking
• Principles of Dialogue
• Principle of Immediacy

Principles of Turn-Taking

In everyday conversations, there is an active exchange of roles of between speakers and listeners
Also known as the exchanges of cues, or conversational turns (a form of metacommunication/gestures or non-verbal communication).
Both speaker and listener will perform and indicate different and various cues during a conversation process.

With this images of the principle of turn taking (assume created by Mr Anwari himself cause i can't find any online :|)

Turn-Maintaining:
Speaker – to speak: His/her role to maintain conversational cues:
Example: Paralanguage, Eye contact

Turn-Yielding:
Speaker – to listen: Indicates they are done talking and wishes to listen.
Example: gestures, verbal

Turn-Requesting:
Listener – to speak: Indicates that he/she is
ready to speak.
Example: Butting in conversation, paralanguage.

Turn-Denying:
Listener – to listen: Indicates that he/she is
not responsive.
Example: Shaking head, looking away…

Principles of Dialogue

Dialogue is how two person share their messages to each other.
it is also indicates an interaction rather than just a conversation
the sender and receiver both actively seek to pursue a healthy and meaningful conversation


Principle of Immediacy

Immediacy is the closeness, togetherness between 2 individual (the speaker & the listener)
Giving a unique attention to an individual of interest

Everyday Conversation

Everyday Conversation consist of:
1. Small Talk
2. Excuses and Apologies
3. Complimenting
4. Advice

Although we commute to anyone everyday
there's still a fine line of social etiquette and disastrous communication.



Small Talk

Small talk is a method in which we slowly introduce ourselves into a bigger issue or message
normally considered as a bridge to the conversation (apart from salutations and opening gestures)


Excuses and Apologies

Excuses: Maintain a fair stand on your excuses

We always excuse ourselves and apologize in our everyday conversations,
for the faults that we do, we sometimes defend by giving excuses
and apologize if we are really in the wrong.

Types of excuses:
a. I Didn't do it : ‘No! Really, no!’: Strong declination of  your involvement
b. it wasn't so bad : ‘Not my fault’: Mid to neutral stand on your involvement
c. yes, but : ‘I know, BUT..’: Admitting to the fault but still defensive on your involvement

Apologies: express regret for something that one has done wrong.

Always maintain an open position
and apologize if you are at fault
Say it like you mean it
Who knows, maybe they will forgive you for your wrong doing ?
..
....
..



Complimenting

Compliment is a “message of praise”
The glue that make relationship stay sticker and hard to pull off.; the interpersonal glue.

2 types of Etiquette of Compliments

Qualified Compliment - praises that really justifies the words; example: someone get a good result in exam.
Unqualified Compliment - praises that is used to just pass on the impression or to mask certain behaviours and intentions; things that you don’t mean to say but said it to get favor or get out of trouble.

Receiving compliments is also a big etiquette
Don’t expect favors when you do good.

You may have 2 options when receiving compliments.
>Denial
>Acceptance

For example,
“It’s nice of you to say that, but I know I was terrible” (denial)
“smile and say thank you” (acceptance)

Advice

How do you gives advice?
By experience ? By knowledge?

there are types of advice,
and here's the advice:

#Explore options: Advising others to seek out alternatives.
For example, your friend never have a date before. How would you advice him/her?

#Expert advice/second opinion: Advising others to emphasize or de-emphasize their beliefs and inclinations.
For example, your friend having a persistent cough. How would you advice?

#Delay decision: To delay their decision – wait for others to act, etc.
For example, your friend has two weeks to decide whether to date Girl A or Girl B. How would you advice?

Relationship Stages

Relationship has stages,
and each stages has it meaning to it
from the above, we can see the steps/stages of relationship


#1 Contact

The first stage of a relationship,
where people become aware of one another's existence, which is impersonal and almost ritualized.
At this stage, perceptual and interactional contact takes place.

Perceptual = human senses (sight, smell, taste, hear, touch)
Interactional = First point of contact; “Hello my name is Ella” and other non-verbal gestures.

For Asians, this is the stage where both (or all) parties are still shy and distance from each other.

(´ . .̫ . `)

While Westerner are more open and try to get close to each other.

(๑･ิ◡･ิ๑)


#2 Involvement

Second stage of relationship where people have tighter bonds and engagements with one another
Normally light bonds of friendship and being added into the social circle.
At this stage, both testing and intensifying stages take place.

Testing stage = “Hey, do you want to come out for a drink?”; “Do you like this song?”; “Are you a Manchester United fan as well?”

Intensifying stage = The amount of times or commitments you committed to one another – appointments, dating, etc.

#3 Intimacy

Third stage of relationship where people have a deep and committed relationship with one another
Relationships grow stronger, explicit displays of affection, communication and bond with one another.
At this stage, interpersonal commitment and social bonding will take place.
Basically at this stage, you've become familiar and comfortable with each other.
Naturally, people with the same likings, beliefs and ideas will group with one another and form ‘clicks’ or groups.


#4 Deterioration

Fourth stage of relationship where other communication factors such as temporal, cultural or societal context weakens the bond with one another.
At this stage, both intrapersonal and interpersonal dissatisfactions become apparent.
Reality hurts: At some stage, everybody grows up.
You would be considered lucky if you are still close to your childhood friends when you are an adult
Often we see and experience changes with people and even ourselves in our lives due to different stages of life (youth, young adult, adults, etc.) that has different priorities.

#5 Repair

Fifth stage of relationship where those affected in the deterioration stage try to work things out with one another.
At this stage, intrapersonal and interpersonal repairs take place.

Intrapersonal – you may consider changing your behaviors or perhaps changing your expectations of your partner.
Interpersonal – you talk and discuss about the problems.

#6 Dissolution

Sixth and last stage of relationship where bonds are broken or returned back to a platonic (before friendship or neutral level).
At this stage, interpersonal and social separation takes place.
For example, you separate yourself from the person you don’t like or have differences with, or you separate yourself from the group that you hang out with because you don’t agree with their lifestyle.

Interpersonal separation – you may not see each other anymore or may not return messages, move into separate apartments, etc.
Social or public separation – avoidance of each other and a return to being “single” (divorce, etc).

Relationship Theories

The list of Relationship Theories:

1. Attraction Theory
2. Relationship Rules Theory
3. Relationship Dialectics Theory
4. Social Penetration Theory
5. Social Exchange Theory
6. Equity Theory



@Attraction Theory

Consist of:

a. Similarity: Attraction to individuals with similar taste, beliefs, ideas with you
b. Proximity: Attraction to individuals who are close to you in terms of range and location
c. Reinforcement:  Attraction to individuals who reinforces your personality and lifestyle
d. Physical Attractiveness and Personality:  Attraction to physical and mental attributes; inner and outer beauty.


@Relationship Rules Theory

Different relationships have different relationship levels and attributes.
a. Friendship Rules
Acquaintances, Normal Friends, Best Friends…
There are rules with each category and we must respect the rules and boundaries

b. Romantic Rules
Similar to friendship rules but more towards lovers and couples.
Varies with different cultural practices
Examples:
Westerners are more direct in public display of affection (PDA)
while Asians are more conservative

c. Family Rules
Different roles in the family setting would impact relationships within and outside of the family.
For example: Traditional Family Setting
The Father is the figurehead of the family and have the utmost authority.
Similarly brothers and sisters also have rules to abide to with each other
the elder sibling would have the authority over the younger sibling.  

d. Workplace Rules
Different roles in the workplace would also impact relationship forming and interpersonal communication.
For example: Superiors will act in a certain way to their peers and to those below them
likewise, executives will act in a certain way towards their peers and to those above them.


@Relationship Dialectics Theory

People in relationships often want to explore the extremes of opposite qualities.

Three pairs of opposites are: -

> Closedness and openness:
Individuals like the exclusive attention of one another yet at the same time they like to be involved in a society or group.

>Autonomy and Connection:
Individuals like to have both independency and dependency on one another.
For example: Girls asking guys’ opinion – girls actually know what they want already and they actually do not need the guy to tell them what to do but they still want to hear it.

>Novelty and Predictability:
Individuals like surprises or uniqueness as well as sustainable and predictable things or routines
and schedules (which is why some are high ambiguity and some have low ambiguity)


@Social Penetration Theory

People in relationships (not only lovers, but friends included)
often have the need to explore each other’s personalities.
Deeper relationships would go deeper into the core personality of the person.

Table of social penetration:


The more you know the person, the deeper the level of conversation and the more meaningful it becomes = depth of relationship.

Similarly, the more you know the person, there are more things you can talk about with the person = breadth of relationship.

@Social Exchange Theory (Rewards > Costs)
Both these theories suggests that individuals form relationships with one another based on whether or not it would bring benefit to them

Example, improving their own network or circle of friends,
increasing their chances of getting a job in the company,
or simply making them more popular and well-received.



@Equity Theory (Rewards = Costs)
Equity Theory is more towards forming professional relationships with one another

Example, forming a working partnership with someone else,
where if you put in a certain amount of money into the company,
you would expect the other person to do the same.
If you do more work,
you would expect the get more of the profit than your partner who did less work.

The Dark side of Interpersonal Relationship

Relationships can get complicated and can lead to ugly things in life and with one another.
One of the most common example is jealousy, due to a human nature called envy.

Different types of jealous can occur:
a. Cognitive jealousy - Suspicious thinking, worrying and exaggeration of things that you think would occur.

b. Emotional jealousy - Seeing someone you like react to something else that is out of your control or reach.

c. Behavioral jealousy - Responses or behavioral changes that takes place with the individual as a result of the envy and jealousy.

If the above problem or anti social behavioural is not fixed,
relationship violence will occur.
Such as, Physical abuse , Verbal or emotional abuse – especially through social media (Facebook, Twitter),  Sexual abuse

AND THAT'S THE END OF CHAPTER 7&8 QUQ

see you guys next time :DDD

Chapter Six ♫ "Non-Verbal Communication" - 11 Feb 2015

 

*insert any cheesy quote relating to today's post*

Hey guys,
today's a tiring day to me with assignment and quiz coming up and what not,
good news: my CNY holiday is saved from assignment and studies
bad news: stress and work piling up like... Gunung Crocker xD
So gonna make it short and direct.

today in class, we learnt "non-verbal Communication"

From the previous post (Chapter Five ♫ " Verbal Communication" - 10 Feb 2015)

Non Verbal Communication
"where it meant using physical way

to gives meaning to your msgs, such as body language, emotion, gesture, etc."

why would anyone need to use "body language" or "gesture" to commute with each other?
although directly send msgs is the fastest and least misunderstanding way.
but with non-verbal msgs,
the greater your ability to send and receive non-verbal signals,
the higher your attraction, popularity, and psychological well-being are likely to be.
The greater your non-verbal skills, the more successful you’re likely to be at influencing others


here's today subtopic:

1) Introduction (the above)
2) Functions of non-verbal communication
3) Channels of non-verbal communication
4) Culture and non-verbal communication

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Functions of non-verbal communication 

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The function of non-verbal communication are:

•  Integrating Nonverbal and Verbal Messages
•  Forming and Managing Impressions
•  Defining Relationships
•  Structuring Conversation
•  Influencing and Deceiving
•  Expressing Emotions

*Will get back to you on this one,
having trouble to understand it :V

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diagram created by Mr Anwari himself ヽ(*≧ω≦)ﾉ

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 Culture and nonverbal communication

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Non-verbal comm. has it place in the cultural world(again, cultural -3- )

and it normally cover these:

1) Culture and Gesture

2) Culture and Facial Expression

3) Culture and Colors

4) Culture and Eye Communication

5) Culture and touch 

6) Culture and paralanguage and silence

yup, this is probably my shortest blog post yet :C
but i'll try to re-update it as i sometime refer my blog during revision :P
See you again on my next post~

now.... back to my other assignment

this is also probably my last post before CNY (heard that next week classes are cancelled
(｡◕ ∀ ◕｡)
so
Happy Chinese New Year to my people
and Happy Holiday to my people in different religion :*: ﾟ・✿ヾ╲(｡◕‿◕｡)╱✿・ﾟ ,。・:*:・
And good day to you Aliens ;)