Chapter Nine ♫ "Friends, Lovers & Families" - 24 March 2015

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today chapter are about Friends, Lovers & Families
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DA MAJOR TOPIC FOR DA CHAPTER R :

> Friendship (Ɔ˘⌣˘)(˘⌣˘)˘⌣˘ C)
> Romantic relationship ( ‘́3’̀)/(˘̩̩ε˘̩ƪ)
> Families (‘౪’(`౪´(^౪^(´･౪･`)´౪`)°౪°)-౪-)

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━━ FRIENDSHIP ━━

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Friendship Is an interpersonal relationship.

To maintain a good friendship,

all individual must be mutually productive

Normally characterized by mutual positive regard:

#Trust

#Emotional support

#Sharing interest

The Friendship Types:-

The Friendship of Reciprocity

# Loyalty, self-sacrifice, mutual affection, generosity.

# Share equally in giving receiving the benefits and rewards of the relationship.

# Eg : close friend

The Friendship of Receptivity

# One person is the primary giver, and one the primary receiver.

# Eg : teacher & students, doctor & patient

The Friendship of Association

# friendly relationship

# There is no great loyalty, no great trust, no great giving & receiving.

# Eg : classmates, neighbours, cowokers

The Purposes of Friendship 

Why do we seek out friendship and close relationships?

What's the point of having bond and friendship?
We are an interactive creature which need friends for various purposes such as:

✽Utility purposes

help you to achieve your specific goals and need.

eg : those who good in Math may teach you that subject.

✽Affirmation

help you to recognize your attributes

eg : those who would help you see more clearly your leadership abilities.

✽Ego support

someone who behave in supportive and encouraging.

eg : those who would help you view yourself as worthy.

✽Stimulation : introduces you to new ideas, help you to expand your world-view

✽Security  : someone who does nothing to hurt you or to emphasize or call attention to your weaknesses.

Stages of Friendship

Step01 - Initial contact & acquaintanceship

✽The first stage of friendship

✽Impressions are formed.

✽Important to stay open and welcoming of the presence of your new acquaintance.

Step02 - Casual friendship

✽The second stage of friendship.

✽Dyadic (of a relation) consciousness takes place

✽Doing things together

Step03 - Close and intimate friendship

✽The third stage of friendship

✽Most intimate forms of togetherness.

Influential of Friendship 

Friendship can be affected by other influence such as:

✪Culture (AGAIN?! (╯°Д°）╯︵/(.□ . ) )

✪Gender differences

✪technology

๏Cultural๏

Different cultures would bring about a different meaning to friendships and relationships.

Collective society : the more friends, the better

Individualist society: the more friends I have, the lesser chance of getting a promotion in workplace.

๏Gender๏

Male and female view friendships and relationships differently

Men are more keen to develop more acquaintances, but not true friends

Women are more able to keep and maintain close friends around them. 

But tends to get jealous more.

Self-disclosure : men would also self-disclose their secrets lesser than a women.  because of ego

๏Technology๏

The meaning of friendship has been diluted by the improvement and usage of technology in our lives.

In the past, it used to be meaningful to have 10 friends which you keep in touch with, 

but these days you can have 5000 friends in facebook 

and you don’t even keep in contact with 5 of them on a regular basis.

Sad for the newer generation :C

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━ ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP ━

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The Types of love ❤

Eros : erotic, sensual, desire, lust

Ludus : excitement, fun, entertainment

Storge : peaceful and slow

Pragma : practical and traditional

Mania : extremist of opposites

Agape : unconditional love

❥Eros ❣

❤ Category represents love that comes out physical attraction, beauty and appearance. 

❤ Often sex and lust becomes the result of this category

❥Ludus ❣

❤ Form of love represents the thrill of excitement and pleasure seeking

❤ Normally only seeking temporary measures and ways to fulfill their need to have fun.

❤ Usually ludic lovers are those who are individualists or self-centered and would only maintain the relationship with their partner until they become bored. 

❥Storge ❣

❤ This form of love represents the act of seeking for love but with the absence of passion and emotion in the process. 

❥Pragma ❣

❤ Lover are more concerned of the ability of the other partner and the benefits that they could gain from the relationship

❥Mania ❣

❤ Lover is a bit of a psycho- they love the thrill of having love and at the same is depressed or worried of having love.

❥Agape ❣

❤ This love is truly unconditional love

❤ Loving another with no favor expected in return. 

❤ Can be considered as the highest and most selfless form of love.

❣ Influential of Romantic Relationship ❣

❥ Cultural Influence

Love is interpreted and practiced differently from various culture around the globe. 

For instance

in America, lovers are more intimate and more active in showing their love(buying flowers etc) 

in Asian countries, love is considered a taboo topic until the individuals have reached a certain age and overall, love take a more passive position in Asian countries.

❥ Gender Influence

Both men and women love differently. 

Men for example, is more and eros and ludic lover

Women are more of the pragma lover.

❥  Technology Influence

Likewise with friendships, 

the meaning of love is also diluted by the growth of technology. 

Non verbal cues and verbal cues for instance, 

Becomes more diluted by the cold and digital texts and messages done 

through emails, text messages, whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc.

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━━ FAMILIES ━━

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Each family has their own uniqueness and characteristics, 

but they do normally follow a certain set of rules and criteria, such as :

●Defined roles (E.g Father as the head)

○Recognition of responsibilities (E.g Mother do house chores)

●Shared history & future (Childhood, difficulty of starting a family)

○Shared living space (Knowing the boundaries without needing to ask..at times)

The Types of family :

○Traditional couples

The conventional form of a family – shared values, beliefs, tolerance for one another.

○Independent couples

Individuals in this family setting stresses individuality as the main theme in the family – unfortunately this is how the modern family is today.

○Separate couples

This family setting is not really a family but individuals in this family stay together for a common benefit (paying the rent, sharing living space, etc)

Communication between Families

Each family communicates with one another differently, 

but would also adhere to the same principles of communication :

●Equality: Individual in families would often seek an equal terms of  respect, love and understanding with one another

●Balanced split : families with a balanced split have a balanced amount of responsibilities

eg; fathers would get money from work, 

mother would prepare and take care of the family and house as in return (balanced)

●Unbalanced split : a mother having to work for money and taking care of the home but the father just stay at home unemployed and not even doing the housework.

●Monopoly : one person is the authority – a very traditional and conventional family setting

Influential of Families

♪Culture

Highly individualist cultures would not have a conductive setting for a healthy family. 

But would often be prepared to accept changes and self-disclosure

♪Technology

Technology brings the family closer or further apart?

Research showed that while the participants in the family are more active in conversation, 

with one another(via text message, email, facebook, etc) 

the quality and value of those conversations are diluted and almost meaningless and lack sincerity.

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Afterwords-----------------
ok, i honestly know how shitty my blog post recently
well, from the previous post (Chapter Seven&Eight ♫ "Interpersonal Communication" - 24 Feb 2015)
Subtopic Excuses.
here's my excuses :|

it been pretty busy with university life
since UCSI favourite trend is
every semester, there will be that one certain of time where suddenly,
Exam, Midterms, Quizzes and assignments are somehow come together (OAO!!)
and well, being in-charge of quite some stuff
will kill anyone :|
*drama queen activate*
but i believe that...

so... keep fighting (ง ಥДಥ)ง
cause i know sir also has a hard time at marking and check our blogs xD

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